Starting out with no hope
I never thought I could be happy again! I had given up on ever being able to go out with friends. I was morbidly obese and extremely unhealthy, fatigued and unhappy most of the time. I hated the psychiatric industry and saw all therapy as a way to make money on the fact that most people will gain back whatever they try to change. I do not know what I was at my hardest days as I never actually felt myself, I couldn’t face it.
I felt so ill and was so scared of having a breakdown due to my daughters suffering and the families situation. Going out shopping exhausted me and caused guilt because I had a little piece of joy. I refused almost all invitations to go out anywhere because I had so little confidence in my daughter, that I hated being out worrying all the time.
There is a common conception that a relative to a person suffering is the pillar in their life. In my case, it was exactly it. But I hated that my daughter’s illness controlled me/us, how I was constantly worrying and nothing satisfied me, and how I was out of control with my thoughts.
So, before I discovered Replan, I began working with my coping strategies and after a some weeks I was actually sleeping a little bit better. I continued working on my breathing and I tried to stay connected, but it was hard and I felt a loneliness.
From outside to inside with Replan
Then by chance, I stumbled upon an advert for Replan. The only thing that attracted me was that it said ‘Evidence based’. But even then, I didn’t trust it. I signed up in desperation, but felt flat and had no hope as I did so. I simply didn’t believe I could be help. I soon discovered that I was very wrong!
Before you start with Replan, you’re given a preparation plan. Things like preparing your network, seeing how the methods works, sample of things which was useful to you, this was all very active and really helped. But of course, and cleverly, this was also helping to prepare me mentally for the journey I was about to embark on. For me, it was like prepping to climb a mountain as I had such a long way to go!
Backed by science
The methods is based on scientific research and you can seek and find many article about Minplan in the scientific databases. But you can also visit the library on Myplan.solution to read fx how stress and outburn reacts inside our bodies, when you are ready how to start exercising, forming good habits and dispelling old ones, how to keep your motivation strong and so much more. These aren’t the usual rather condescending information that you so often see, but written to an intelligent audience based on scientific research.
Now I know what happens inside my body when I mentally overload and I make my decisions based on proper facts.
Getting the power back
At first, I would just remember to breath and do some yoga when I felt like it. Which was close to never. I now have joined my local gym and do spinning twice a week. I do it for myself, to bring up my power again. I’ve also started working in a local walking group and we walk together every weekends. I know enjoy visiting me friends and I am also talking to them about my situation at home.
So, how do I feel today? Well, most days I have more energy and I am happy! I love my daughter and I am not burden by her sickness. I am able to help her and at the same time living my own life physically and mentally! Life is wonderful! I feel totally in control, and I no longer have guilt.
Tips for anyone thinking of joining?
To all who are either starting out or already uses Replan, I’d say make sure you really understand the personal plan, reread the plan from time to time, and make sure you see all the videos properly when you have time, as these are so educating and change our way of thinking. Finally, check in with your network often. Please don’t give up hope. There is an answer, and Replan has the secret key we have all been looking for! You can do this!
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